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18 ways to improve your self-confidence

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Here are 18 ways to improve your self-confidence as presented by Jeff Haden, writer for Inc.

My favourite? #7

1. Show gratitude. Thank someone. Thank anyone. Thank yourself, too.

2. Act with kindness. This will give you confidence to truly be yourself around others.

3. Define your values. Make a commitment to live those values.

4. Find your true motivations. Once you know what your values are, those values help you understand what motivates you.

5. Take special care to look better than usual. But we all perform better when we look better.

6. Perform a little mental Photoshop. We are what we expect.

7. Smile more. Find a way to smile, especially when you don’t want to.

8. Visualize success. Hold on to those images. Hold on to those feelings.

9. Erase negative thoughts. Stop listening to that voice by imagining the voice as a person. Tell that person to leave.

10. Prepare, with focus. Know your stuff.

11. Slow down your speech. Showing you are not worried about what to say next.

12. Serve others. Serving others erases millions of personal problems.

13. Focus on solutions. Solutions are more important than problems. Focus on what is possible rather than what currently « is. »

14. Fix your posture. Stand tall, sit up straight, be present.

15. Learn more. Learn from the best. Then learn more.

16. Set goals. Then set bigger goals. Set a small goal. Accomplish it. Success breeds success.

17. Exercise more than last week. Movement creates action.

18. Clean your space.  Clarity of space allows for clarity of thought.


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Keep smiling!

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As outlined by Martin Seligman from the University of Pennsylvania in his introduction to positive psychology, « a science of positive subjective experience, positive individual traits, and positive institutions promises to improve quality of life and prevent the pathologies that arise when life is barren and meaningless. »

This is why those three simple techniques designed by the organizational psychologist Woody Woodward to proactively seek out the positive in our lives every single day and transforming this into a routine are so attractive:

1. Launch The Day Positive!

Happiness is much more under our control than we think, and it starts with a positive mindset even if TV and newspapers do not stimulate such an attitude. A study conducted by Michelle Gielan and Shawn Achor in conjunction with The Huffington Post showed that watching just three minutes of negative news in the morning makes viewers 27% more likely to report having a bad day six to eight hours later. The trick is to reverse the trend.

From Theory to Practice: Start your day, start every single day by spotting and then sharing some good news. Watch things you like, surf on websites dedicated to your hobbies or passions.  Why not browsing sites which are dedicated to delivering only good news such as  The objective is to immerse yourself into a positive mindset which will impact your interactions with peers, friends, clients or even with strangers.

2. Touch a Friend!

Aristotle said that human is a social animal. This is true. Maintaining a mutual social support – which is much deeper than benefiting from a social network – help dealing with stress and can be considered as a springboard to happiness.

From Theory to Practice: Get in touch with a friend every single day. Phone calls or immediate face to face connections are not always possible so don’t neglect social medias for instant quick and authentic interaction. This might be less easy for introverts till they make it a habit fitting the communication channels they prefer.

3. Catch them in the Act!

It is easy to focus on what people made wrong, on bad services we get, on mistakes we observe. Condemning is more comfortable than praising.  However, having an eye open on positive actions and expressing it is much more rewarding… for everyone. Harvard and Wharton School researchers Francesca Gino and Adam Grant’s explored gratitude and how emotions influence decisions.  They showed that receiving expressions of gratitude increases individuals’ sense of self-worth, and unconsciously stimulates their propensity to support others.

Researchers add that « by missing chances to express gratitude, organizations and leaders lose relatively cost-free opportunities to motivate. »

From Theory to Practice: Every single day look around you for positive acts and let people know. 


Sources: American Psychology AssociationHarvard Gazette,


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